Here’s the quick personal story of how a small mindset shift changed my entire life!
In 2013, I found myself at the climax of what had been an unprecedented period of negativity in my life. For five long years, I was a shadow of my former self. The confident, bubbly, enthusiastic woman that I prided myself as being, faded away as if she was never anything other than a figment of my imagination.
Most of my struggle stemmed from the demise of my career. I felt like a bystander watching my professional career tank right before my eyes.
You see, I’d left my well-paying job in Ohio, and uprooted to South Carolina because of a job opportunity for my husband. While the move was a fantastic decision for his career, my career went downhill faster than I could ask, “What the hell just happened?”
In August 2013, I came across the movie The Secret. Someone had previously given me a copy of the book, which I had glanced at once or twice but never actually finished. All I knew about The Secret was that it had something to do with the secret to happiness, and after all of the failure and disappointment in the last few years of my life, nothing sounded better than the possibility (however remote) of experiencing happiness again.
By the end of the movie, I was flabbergasted. How in the hell had this secret escaped me for so long? Why had I not realized, or read, or been told that despite all of life’s happenings, I controlled my thoughts, therefore I controlled my happiness?
It was as if I’d been sitting in the dark for the last five years, and someone strolled along and switched on the lights for me. I felt this weird surge of empowerment. I finally understood that I’d been trying to change my life with external changes–new jobs, new businesses, wanting to move back to Ohio, etc. But in reality, it was my mindset and soul that needed the change.
That was the first night that I realized the true power of my thoughts. I realized for the first time that my thoughts mold my reality. I made it my daily mission to push out more positive, optimistic thoughts with the goal of creating a better me.
Life didn’t miraculously become perfect after I had this epiphany, but it was much improved.
I looked at my life and my circumstances from a different vantage point and was able to recognize certain blessings instead of being blind to them.
Suddenly, I found myself falling in love with the city I lived in. I started building a community of friends I loved. Even the house we lived in suddenly felt like home.
The change in mindset made me better prepared for challenges that came my way–and oh yes there were tons of new challenges headed in my direction.
Adopting a positive mindset is not about trying to live a perfect life. It’s more about recognizing that constant negativity and pessimism does not provide a solution to problems, it exacerbates them. It’s about realizing that positivity brings more positivity and invites happiness into your life.
I heard a saying once, “We’re all just walking each other home at the end of the night.” The personal stories, tools, and resources shared on this website are my way of grabbing your hand and walking you home sister.